once in elementary school i got a D on a test and i legitimately thought my parents were going to kill me so at recess we had a funeral and my friends picked me flowers and pieces of grass and let them blow away in the wind it was very dramatic i cried
I get myself into these situations and then I wonder why I can’t get out of them. I hate that I can’t ever just do things right. It’s one thing to make mistakes and learn from them, it’s another to be drowning in your mistakes. I can’t breathe anymore.
But I guess ultimately what scares me about marriage is where do you find this person? You know a lot of times, most successful relationships, people meet through work, school, mutual friends.
But what’s most interesting to me is when people just meet in life, just randomly.
You know, I have a friend, he got married, I asked him like “Hey, uh, where’d you meet your wife?” He was like “I was leaving Bed, Bath & Beyond. I was looking for my car - I drive a gray Prius. I saw a different gray Prius, I thought it was mine, I walked up to it, I realized I had the wrong car, but I bumped into Carol, we started talking, that was that”. That’s unbelievable.
Think about all the random factors that had to come together to make this one moment possible - this one moment that changed these two people’s entire lives:
First off, this guy has to live in this particular town. Then he has to get a gray Prius. Then he has to need to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then he has to go to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then there has to be another guy who also lives in town, also drives a gray Prius, also needs to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond, also goes to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond at around the same time. Then they have to both park somewhat near each other, my friend has to leave before the other guy leaves, see the wrong Prius, think it’s his, walk up to it. Then the woman, Carol, needs to be near the wrong gray Prius for a million other random reasons. They bump into each other, they start talking, their entire lives are changed.
That’s the most amazing and terrifying thing about life.
It is, cause the amazing thing is that at any moment, any one of us can have that moment that totally changes our lives. You could be leaving the show tonight, bump into someone… it could change your life. You don’t know, that could happen.
The terrifying thing is… what if we’re all supposed to be at Bed Bath & Beyond right now?
“And it has been
of a year.
I have worn
under my sleeves,
on my thighs,
running down my cheeks.
This is what
looks like, my dear.”—Michelle K., It Has Been One Hell of a Year (via aestheticintrovert)
“I hate the beach but I wanna walk on the sand with her
Im not a big fan of ice cream but I wanna eat some and warm my mouth up with her kisses
Im freaked out by rollercoasters but I’ll scream the whole way round while holding her hand
I feared falling asleep at night but the fear disappeared when I only positively anticipated wrapping her in my arms and dozing off next to her
I used to be terrified of love but I love experiencing it with her”—(via badash3377)
Listen to me, you can’t fix people. Your love won’t make him stop hating his father and your devotion won’t cure her of her childhood. All you can do is be there, violets sprouting out from your ribs, acceptance on your lips, your own wounds still bleeding and all you can do is be there and sometimes that’s enough, sometimes that’s everything.
1. Don’t allow others to make you feel like you’re living your life in the “wrong” way. There is no right or wrong way to do any of this bullshit. We’re all stumbling in the dark here.
2. If you come across others who are panicking about their life paths, don’t allow that to effect how you feel about yours. Because you are fine, you are okay, their crisis is not mean to be your crisis.
3. Call your parents at least once a week. They just want to make sure you’re not lying dead in a ditch somewhere.
4. Eat balanced meals. Fats, carbs, protein. Your body needs variety to help break down what you consume. But make sure you eat whatever the fuck you want, too.
5. Don’t listen to the labels people put on you. You tell them who you are, not the other way around.
6. Forget the term “guilty pleasure”. If it brings you pleasure, let it, and don’t feel guilty about it.
7. Smile. It’s the best face you can make.
8. Don’t kiss somebody just because they want to kiss you. Kiss somebody because you want to kiss them. And kiss a lot of people. It’s fun and makes you feel good.
9. Start writing things down. Your memory isn’t a can only hold on to so much information at a time, and your cell phone will lose battery when you least expect it to. You might remember the test next Friday but totally forgot you have that assignment due in your other class.
10.Remember: You’re going to be Okay.
11. Put your phone away when dining or sitting with someone. Give them your attention. Face-to-face human interaction is vital.
12. If you blatantly blow somebody off on multiple occasions, don’t be surprised the next time you bump into them and they’re cold toward you. When you burn, it gets returned.
13. Learn how to enjoy time spent alone. Work on your art, read a book, workout, cook a good meal for yourself, watch a movie, tidy up your room, or go sit on a bench and breathe in some fresh air.
14. Allow yourself a good cry every now and then. Don’t feel like you have to hold it in all the time. You honestly will feel 1000 times better after you cry it out.
15. Dress up for yourself, and nobody else.
16. Don’t expect anybody to decode your feelings and always know if something’s wrong. Others are just as caught up in their own lives, as you are in yours. Use your words and express how you feel.
17. Figure out a “De-Stress Routine”. And when you need to relax from the chaotic schedule that is your life, do it. Always set aside time for yourself.
18. Drink water. Lots of it. It rids impurities from your body and keeps you feeling good.
19. Never stop looking for new music, new films, or new art, there is always something interesting brewing in some corner of the universe.
20. Let others earn your trust. Or else you’ll find yourself falling anything anybody says. But don’t be too skeptical, you have to find that common ground of a good judgement of character.
21. People need people. We were all put here together for a reason. Isolating yourself from those around you will not help you. Don’t be afraid or too proud to ask for help when you need it.